My niece is tying the knot this summer. She and her future hubby plan to marry on the beach in Brunswick, GA. That’s a long ways from south Texas, and getting there will require either two days of hard driving or flying and renting a car. Naturally, we plan to attend, but before we cement our travel plans, we have presented the bride and groom with a most unusual request: Do you want to see us or get $500 cash?
I must admit I had reservations about this proposition. It runs the risk of hurt feelings because some might interpret the question as ~ “Brad and Amanda would rather not come.” To head off those concerns, I informed my brother prior to extending our offer to Lauren. As expected, he took it well, but insisted he knew how Lauren would choose, implying that she would not take the cash. However, we got a response from Lauren this morning stating that she wants to chat with future hubby before making a final decision. Our offer has her thinking!
Let’s be completely honest here; actual face time with the bride and groom would span no more than five minutes the whole weekend. And while she would receive some enjoyment from our attendance, it would be limited. On a positive note, I would get to spend time with my brother, but this trip is all about Lauren. In short, I’m asking Lauren if our attendance is worth $500.
While I may be berated for my seemingly callous proposition, I think it’s pretty thoughtful. Unlike other guests who will spend most of their resources on ancillary wedding travel (dead weight loss), I’m simply giving Lauren an opportunity to share in the saved resources of not traveling. I hear of parents offering their daughters cash in lieu of a wedding. This follows the same principle.
I’ll share how it all shakes out.